How to talk about running…with people who don’t run!

I am the only person in my house who runs. Period. MacGyver used to run years ago but now he hates it and the kid doesn’t like to run either.

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MacGyver often teases me, because truth be told, he thinks I run a bit too much. Okay, a lot too much. He will say things like, ‘your knees are going to be shot when you get old’ and ‘when you get older I’m not gonna push you around in your wheelchair because you broke your body with all that running!’

That’s totally fine by me because if his current memory is any indication, he will probably have Alzheimer’s anyway and I don’t want him pushing me around and not remembering where he left my ass, so were all good.

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We joke around a lot but fortunately, my family is very supportive of my running. They show up for many of my races and they don’t bitch when I have to get in my training. It’s important to have the support of the people who love you but that doesn’t mean they want to hear about every detail of every single run. Even though they support me, they don’t support me in quite the same way that another runner would.

For instance, MacGyver always asks me, ‘how was your run’ as soon as I get back. I usually limit my response to just ‘fine’ because I know he doesn’t really want to know how at mile two I wanted to quit and then at mile four I had the fastest mile in 3 weeks, or how I finished strong and felt like I could go on for at least five more miles. No, I’ve learned over time that he doesn’t really want to hear all about that and neither does the kid. Instead I say just fine or I focus on the things that I know will interest them.

Last summer, there a pack of coyotes in the park and if you left early enough in the morning you would see them. I saw them quite a few times and I would always come home and tell MacGyver about the encounters and how cool it was. He was mesmerized by the fact that they didn’t run off but were actually curious about all the runners who were in the park before the sun came up. After a while, I didn’t even have to mention anything because he would excitedly asked me about the coyotes as soon as I walked in the door. And we had similar conversations regarding a fox that would run beside me down in Venice. Wildlife is a big hit with MacGyver and a sure way to keep him interested in my running.

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The Kid on the other hand likes to hear about the funny things that happen when I’m out running, or the insects that I see. He was particularly interested in the time I saw the elusive red widow spider and the time I saw a huge infestation of dung beetles. And anytime I fall down, he loves to hear about it. Fortunately, that’s often. With my Mom, I talk about my running clothes and running shoes. She loves seeing all of my clothes and she loves to help me pick out cute things to run in and outfits to wear for races. She also loves hearing about the styles and brands that I like because she shops as much, or more, than I do and she often finds things on sale for me.

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With my tech savvy friends I talk about my Garmin watches, heart rate monitors and other gadgets. With my analytical friends I talk about my graphs and charts and training but I’m sure you get the point.

Not all of your family and friends are going to be runners but you can still find things about running that will interest them and not bore them to tears. And who knows, maybe if you talk about the things that interest them, they’ll get curious and you’ll eventually turn them into runners too.

Do your family and friends run?

Is your family supportive of your running and training?

13 thoughts on “How to talk about running…with people who don’t run!

  1. I have come to the point in my life where my runner friends outnumber my non-running friends and I love it. We can talk about races and ailments, running issues for hours and no one gets bored, except our spouses. lol My DH will ask “How was your run?” I think just to make sure I didn’t die or get attacked. Like you, I keep it short. lol

    • I am hoping to transform my non-running friends into running friends…I’m practicing my powers of pursuasion..so far, I’m pretty sure I would have been a terrible cult leader….LOL

  2. So funny … Yep no support at my house either ( and I’ve learned friends really don’t want I hear about it either

  3. Yep! As much as I wish i didn’t have to agree with you….my family does not really run either, but to give them credit, my mum and dad LOVE it, so they actually know more about the people I run against than I do! My boyfriend understands which is nice though. Love this post, pretty funny!

  4. haha. this is awesome! I am the only one in my family who runs and my friends could give a crap. Yeah they like the photos and tell me I’m a rock star but overall they don’t get it and probably think i run too much. The whole premise for starting a blog!!

  5. My husband doesn’t run but is beyond supportive of my running or not running (when injured) or cycling, swimming, yoga, etc. I show him my routes when I download from my Garmin, I talk about time and how I feel. I am sure he is completely bored, but he’s a good actor. Love that man!

  6. I don’t want my family at my races. They allow me to race. They come with me to racecations. And I’m good with that. They support me. But after runs and races I like to just chill and be part of the party after…just to feel the energy. They don’t :). And again I’m cool with that.

    • That’s a good compromise. My hubs loves the after party especially some of the ones in Sarasota that encourage you to bring family. The SAL half marathon feeds the runners and all of their families. I’ve never seen my husband eat so much barbque in my life! 🙂

  7. This post made me laugh because I can relate! I was out running yesterday and the only way to engage my husband was to tell him about the feral dog that tried to attack me. My kids are still too small to care but most of my friends aren’t runners so I end up with them thinking I am crazy anytime I mention anything about training! Thanks for posting and sharing…so funny!

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